Men are notoriously difficult to buy for. And nothing stings quite like a beloved’s look of apathy (disappointment!) when he unwraps what you thought was the perfect present. In search of answers, I sought out advice from my “informal panel of men.” With their help, I present three general principles for giving gifts to men and a few ideas to get you started. Read the rest of this entry
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When I was in high school, there were a few guys I dated on and off. They were good guys, and I was flattered by their attentions, but I wasn’t really attracted to them. I tried to show them I wasn’t interested, but they just didn’t get the hint.
Several readers of an earlier post, How to Show a Man That You Are Interested without Giving Him the Wrong Idea, have recently asked me how to show him you aren’t interested. I never really learned the answer myself while I was still dating, so I took the question to my informal panel of men. Their answers might surprise you. Read the rest of this entry
Adam and I have only been married three years, but we’ve known each other for a long time. (A third of my life!) I’ve always thought about him first as a man who is analytical and thoughtful, a sort of absent-minded-professor character. But when some of my own self-explorations showed me parts of me I didn’t know were there, I began to wonder: What if there is more to Adam than I am allowing myself to see? An exercise on a recent couple’s retreat helped me see past my preconceptions about Adam and accept him for all of who he really is. Read the rest of this entry
the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed upon to marry.”
—Elizabeth Bennet, Pride & Prejudice
My friend Lucy worried a man of a different faith would frown on her beliefs. Lauren was waiting to feel just the right spark. And I swore I would never, ever marry a younger man. Yet, all three of us found love with the people we least expected when we learned to appreciate what was in front of us and give well-deserving guys a second chance.
Adam and I were fortunate to meet and fall in love with college. But we recognize all the obstacles our still-single friends have to overcome as they look for the love of their lives. Without a community organized around a common interest like school, many of them struggle to even meet men. And those who do meet men face the difficulty of attracting their attention. Read the rest of this entry
The way most women clean is a daunting task. We’re thorough and we want the house to be spotless. So for us, cleaning can involve a big time commitment and often has a slow pay-off.
Contrast that with the way men clean. When men clean, it is all about speed, convenience, and instant gratification. It might take me an hour to carefully scrub a room, but my husband can whip a room into passable shape in five minutes flat. Read the rest of this entry
When Adam and I started dating, it was easy to spend hours laying in each others’ arms and talking. We never had to think about things to say. Ideas just flowed from our desire to share ourselves with each other. Sometimes we talked about big ideas. Sometimes we talked about our favorite T.V. shows. And sometimes we talked about nothing at all.
Flash forward nine years, throw in two jobs, a home, and a baby and suddenly conversation becomes more of a luxury than a staple. That’s why we’ve learned that the ability to have great conversations takes practice.
So why are these great, intimate conversations so important? Read the rest of this entry