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10 Things You Can Do to Help Your Husband Be a Great Dad

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Being a parent is harder than it looks. The added responsibilities are hard enough, especially when balanced with marriage, homemanagement, and work. But the real challenge comes from all the little sacrifices we make every day, each moment we have to choose someone else’s needs over our own.

Fortunately, it doesn’t take much to make the difficult habit of self-giving a little easier for your husband. In informal panel of men suggests that, by keeping these 10, simple ideas in mind, you can help your husband be the dad he wants to be. Read the rest of this entry

Lessons in Wifery from The Age of Innocence

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Newland Archer is proud of his beautiful, accomplished fiancée—at least until he meets the notorious and exciting Countess Ellen Olenska. After he convinces her not to divorce her husband for propriety’s sake, Newland and Ellen fall deeply in love with each other. As they contemplate an affair, they struggle to reconcile their feelings with the expectations of the deeply conservative society of New York during the Gilded Age.

The Age of Innocence is a novel about the conflict between love and duty—and what we lose when we have to choose. Her realistic portrayal of upper class life during the 1870s won author Edith Wharton the first Pulitzer Prize ever awarded to a woman. And that same realistic portrayal teaches us valuable lessons about what it is to be a wife in any age. Read the rest of this entry

5 Simple Ways to Save on Date Night

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My husband and I dated for six years before we got married. We thought we had this relationship thing figured out. But, after only nine months of marriage, things had started to get a little rocky.

My gentle, understanding husband had suddenly become grouchy and irritable. Instead of helping him, all I could think to do was nag him to tell me what was wrong. Because we were saving up for a down payment on a house, we didn’t go out together often.

We worked. We ate. We went to bed.

No wonder our marriage was running into trouble. We barely ever talked to each other!

Read more at Money Saving Mom…

3 Secrets to Making Long-Distance Relationships Work

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My husband and I met the first day of college. Even though it took me a few months to admit it, we knew we were perfect from each other for almost the first moment we met. We spent three blissful years seeing each other every day—sometimes several times a day.

And then we graduated.

Adam moved to Taiwan for a year for graduate language study. I spent a year teaching in Washington, DC while I tried to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. We were an ocean and two continents apart for an entire year, quite a rude awakening for two people used to seeing as much of each other as they wanted. Read the rest of this entry

Lessons in Wifery from Erec and Enide

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The world’s greatest knight wins the hand of the world’s most beautiful woman. They are married in King Arthur’s castle and set out to live happily ever after. That would be the end of most modern love stories. But a wedding is only the beginning of this medieval legend.

Erec gives up knightly deeds to spend time with Enide. When Enide learns that Erec’s subjects no longer respect him as a knight, Erec demands that Enide join him on a quest.

Erec wants to prove his manliness to his wife. Enide struggles to earn back the affection she thinks she has lost. But while fighting recreant knights, lecherous counts, and terrible giants, each learns to give what the other needs and receive what the other offers. Read the rest of this entry

How to Talk to Your Husband about Sex

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Being great women and wives means focusing on who we are as whole people—not thinking about ourselves as sex objects or allowing ourselves to be used as sex objects by men. But it has taken me a long time to learn that it also means accepting our sexuality and sharing it with our husbands. Good communication is part of sharing our sexuality and a vital part of healthy sexual relationships. Read the rest of this entry

Vintage Marriage Advice from the Eve of World War I

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We modern women tend to be focused on our rights. So focused on them, in fact, that we occasionally forget that our rights also come with responsibilities. Healthy marriages aren’t built on the love, devotion, and selflessness of one partner alone. Marriage ought to be built on mutual love and sacrifice.

In her 1913 Don’ts for Wives, Blanch Ebbuttt unapologetically presents a simple picture of what marriage for women of her generation ought not be: neither spouse should dominate the other. Instead, she suggests that we keep our husbands’ needs and desires constantly in mind in the hope that they’re the ones looking out for what we need and want. Read the rest of this entry