As part of my recovery from depression, Adam and I sat down and made of the sacrifices he would like me to make. (At my most depressed, I was making many unnecessary sacrifices for him because I thought my needs were unimportant.) We came up with a list of five real needs that I can meet by giving something up–whether it’s time, privacy, or control. That way a sacrifice is a selfless gesture oriented around his needs, instead of a self-centered gesture focused on my thoughts and feelings. Read the rest of this entry
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Holiday tips have been controversial since they were introduced into the U.S. in the 1930s and 40s. While you should never feel obliged to give a gift, holiday tipping is an important way to show your appreciation to the people in your life who work hard to make your days a little bit easier. After all, a holiday tip is really a “thank you” for a year of good service. Experimental Wifery explains who to tip, what to tip, and how to tip if your budget isn’t up to the expense. Read the rest of this entry
Men are notoriously difficult to buy for. And nothing stings quite like a beloved’s look of apathy (disappointment!) when he unwraps what you thought was the perfect present. In search of answers, I sought out advice from my “informal panel of men.” With their help, I present three general principles for giving gifts to men and a few ideas to get you started. Read the rest of this entry
Buying something for everyone on your list is easy. But buying something truly thoughtful, something the women on your list will cherish and use?–that’s tricky. Experimental Wifery brings you a list of gift ideas for the women in your lives who are trying to be better women and wives. Read the rest of this entry
Many of us find some of our greatest pleasure in giving gifts to others—material treasures like books or jewelry, but also emotional must-have like friendship or a listening ear. But buying presents can cost a lot of money. And there are some emotional supports you just can give.
A “window shopping” party is a fun way to spend an evening with friends and express your generous desires without breaking the bank. With envelopes, a stack of recycled magazines, and scissors you can give your friends everything you’ve ever dreamed of giving them without paying a dime. Read the rest of this entry
Experienced mothers all over the world host baby showers for their families and friends. In most Western countries, new mothers ask for specific gifts at showers by creating registries to tell guests what they want. But when moms-to-be register for their own gifts, they often miss out on the wisdom and expertise other members of their communities have to offer. Experimental Wifery offers some ideas to think about how to decide what you’ll need for your new baby and a few practical suggestions about how to register.
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