Adam and I have only been married three years, but we’ve known each other for a long time. (A third of my life!) I’ve always thought about him first as a man who is analytical and thoughtful, a sort of absent-minded-professor character. But when some of my own self-explorations showed me parts of me I didn’t know were there, I began to wonder: What if there is more to Adam than I am allowing myself to see? An exercise on a recent couple’s retreat helped me see past my preconceptions about Adam and accept him for all of who he really is. Read the rest of this entry
Category Archives: Sensitive
It is difficult to watch someone we love suffer without knowing how to help. When a friend’s parent dies, we bring a casserole. When she has been in a car accident, we pick her children up from school. But how to we help women who suffer from an invisible illness it is difficult to understand? Experimental Wifery brings you ten suggestions compiled from therapists, psychiatrists, and Alison’s own experience on the giving and receiving end of a supportive friendship for someone with depression. Read the rest of this entry
the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed upon to marry.”
—Elizabeth Bennet, Pride & Prejudice
My friend Lucy worried a man of a different faith would frown on her beliefs. Lauren was waiting to feel just the right spark. And I swore I would never, ever marry a younger man. Yet, all three of us found love with the people we least expected when we learned to appreciate what was in front of us and give well-deserving guys a second chance.
On the hall of my freshman dorm lived a guy. Stefan. He was tall—really tall. His pronounced nose and distinctive accent marked him as clearly Eastern European. Not only was he a tall, dark, and handsome stranger, but he also played the bass guitar (like me!), stunt biked for fun (not like me at all, but awesome), and rode horses on a Colorado ranch every summer. What a guy, right?
The first new mom in a group of twenty or thirty-something friends is always a cause for celebration. But enthusiastic singles and newly-weds often find themselves wondering how they can be good friends to someone who is about to experience something so wonderful and different. What’s a single girl to do?
New moms need their girlfriends like never before. Friendship makes pregnancy and motherhood more fun and a strong support network is one of the best ways to protect the mother and baby’s health by helping to prevent post-partum depression.
On the eve of my son’s first birthday, I sat down and reflected on the last year of my life. Even though I’ve wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember, nothing about being a parent has gone the way I expected. Yet after a year with my son, I can say that it’s in those moments when all my hopes and dreams about motherhood are dashed that I learn the most about my son, about being a mom, and about life.
In almost nine years together, Adam and I have learned that great conversations depend on time, space, and silence. The best date nights are the ones that make conversations easy by providing the stillness and quiet that make open conversation thrive. These five (mostly free!) dates make great conversations easy, whether you’re just beginning a relationship or you’ve been married for many years. Read the rest of this entry