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5 Simple Ways to Save on Date Night

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My husband and I dated for six years before we got married. We thought we had this relationship thing figured out. But, after only nine months of marriage, things had started to get a little rocky.

My gentle, understanding husband had suddenly become grouchy and irritable. Instead of helping him, all I could think to do was nag him to tell me what was wrong. Because we were saving up for a down payment on a house, we didn’t go out together often.

We worked. We ate. We went to bed.

No wonder our marriage was running into trouble. We barely ever talked to each other!

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  1. Saw your post on Money Saving Mom and saw you’re also from DC! I’m in Arlington. Go Nats!

  2. I love the advice this article provided, it was savy, sweet and I really do believe can help foster a healthy relationship. I have a question that is kind of related to the same topic… And any advice would be appreciated.
    My boyfriend of a year and a half doesn’t have a job currently. He recently graduated, and is looking for one while taking summer classes to further his education. He is intelligent and hard working and in no way a dead beat. That being said, because of his financial situation I often have to foot the bill for dates. Whether it’s dinner and a movie out – or groceries and a redbox in, I’m the one paying. This doesn’t bother me at all, but I am getting the feeling that it is starting to make my boyfriend self-conscious because when I mention our weekly date night he is not as enthused as he used to be (when he could pay or pitch in). My question is, how can I keep up our weekly date nights and avoid upsetting or making him uncomfortable by the fact that I fund/plan them?

    • That’s a good question! I would encourage you to talk to him about the reasons he doesn’t seem to be enjoying date night, just to make sure you’ve correctly identified the problem. Don’t ask him whether he’s embarrassed about the money, just tell him it doesn’t seem like he has been enjoying dates lately and see if he has a reason.

      If money is an issue, be sure to let your boyfriend pay whenever he offers. He is an adult and may find it emasculating or insulting if you doubt his ability to manage his own finances. You could try going Dutch treat. Paying for yourself isn’t the most intimate or romantic scenario, but it may make your boyfriend feel like he has saved face.

      Other than that, I would try virtually no-cost date nights. Go for a long walk. Spend some time star gazing. Look for free events like gallery openings or outdoor summer performances. If you’ve got a guy who is embarrassed that you are paying, make sure you’re paying as little as possible.

      Let us know how things turn out!


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